April 07, 2006

How to Defend Against Domestic Violence

Murder Brings Attention To Domestic Violence [Cross Posted at TFS Magnum] Arkansas has a problem. Domestic violence murders are up. But no one - in the media or in the victimization industry at least - wants to talk about self-defense.

There is mention of shelters and agencies that might help with "safety planning," but there is no mention of the fact that you need to take care of yourself. (See my idea of safety planning.) Why not work this into a discussion of the "Stand Your Ground" legislation currently working its way through the Arkansas legislature? A reporter wouldn't even need to take sides, but could get quotes from both sides of the issue on how it might impact domestic violence.

The case in point is about a woman allegedly killed by her husband within minutes of having applied for a restraining order.

Police say she had taken the right steps legally to try to protect herself, but domestic violence experts admit there's only so much police and judges can do.
As we see in this tragedy, legal protection (a restraining order) and actual protection are not the same thing.

Being armed may not have saved this woman. Being prepared for an emergency does not mean you will not be overcome by the emergency. We are only human, and we do the best we can. (As I always say, there are no guarantees in this life.) But what is very clear is that the system was not able to protect this woman. Her only chance would have been to try to protect herself.

The media seems at a loss when the state cannot come to the rescue. They report that there is only so much the police and the justice system can do, and stop cold. The very idea that YOU might have to step in and take some responsibility seems to be foreign. (And before anybody starts in on the "blame the victim" meme, take a look at Responsibility and Blame. I am NOT blaming the victim.) The victimization industry - so called because they are not the least bit interested in ending victimization, just ensuring the rights of victims - will not even allow the mention of the "F" word, firearms in their hallowed halls. Try approaching a battered women's shelter with the idea of running a Refuse to be a Victim class, and see how fast they slam the doors in your face.

In short if the state or the group can't solve the problem, the MSM and those on the Left don't want to even allude to the fact the individual might be able to solve the problem or at least mitigate the consequences for themselves. Individuals, who take responsibility for even a small part of their lives, are not likely to turn their existence over to the state. And personal safety is not a small part of life.

Posted by Zendo Deb at April 7, 2006 11:15 AM